pressure on your kids to study hard?

[Nebulous]

Would you put a lot of pressure on your kids to study hard? Get good grades?

Why or why not?

[xxJackxx]

I don't have any kids and the older I get the more grateful for that I am. Not because I wouldn't have liked them but given the current state of things...

 

To answer the question I say it would have depended on the part of my life during which I would have had to have decided. When I was younger I probably would have. At this point in life I believe there are way more important things in life than grades. I have seen people in this world with good grades fail ay life and people that didn't finish school that started their own businesses and were quite successful. Focus on what you are good at and what you like to do. Hopefully those lines cross somewhere.

[Nebulous]

My daughter struggled with getting good grades at school. Admittedly I'd get upset with report cards came in and there would be some bad grades on there. However hooting and hollering didn't make her improve her grades. She'd get a worse one the next time if we did that. If we backed off and let her figure things out for herself they would improve a little.

[xxJackxx]

On 2/26/2023 at 7:44 AM, Nebulous said:

However hooting and hollering didn't make her improve her grades.

Agreed, that doesn't fix anything. A lack of doing so was never the problem.

[Gandalf]

It is a difficult balance, especially with teens.

Too much pressure doesn't work.

Keeping an eye on their progress and offering help when needed and/or wanted is not so bad.

You want them to become independent and succeed on their own.